Often, when we think of boundaries, we tend to equate them to keeping distance. The idea that boundaries are intended to simply create distance from others is a common misconception and causes us to miss so much of the benefit and meaning that boundaries can bring to our lives and relationships.
Boundaries are essential for emotional well-being and healthy relationships. They help define what we are comfortable with and how we expect to be treated by others. Setting boundaries isn’t about building walls—it’s about creating clarity and mutual respect. Whether it’s saying no, asking for space, or protecting your time, boundaries support your self-worth and reduce resentment. They allow you to connect with others from a place of security and reliability, rather than fear or obligation. Remember: clear boundaries are an act of self-care, not selfishness. Learning to set and uphold them is a powerful step toward a more balanced life.
Expressing our needs is another powerful and proactive way to set boundaries. Expressing our needs communicates what’s important to us and allows others to better understand and respect our limits. When we communicate our needs openly, we honour and validate our own well-being, and this gives others the opportunity to show up in meaningful ways. Sharing this part of ourselves allows for more balance, reciprocity, and intention in our relationships, which tend to increase connection, attunement and safety.
So the next time you have an opportunity to share what you need or expect with others, try to remind yourself that this allows your relationship to be as close as possible, while also as safe as possible.