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How To Build Your Support System

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By Andrea De Bartolo

February is often a time focused on connections and relationships. With January behind us, now is a great time to build up a strong support system that will last for the rest of 2022 and beyond. It can be daunting to start this task. Knowing what to say and who to talk to when in need of support can seem like a maze to finding the right answer. Breaking down how to build your support system based on the 5 W’s can help! Below, we break down who, what, where, when, and why you can build your support system.

  1. Where
    1. This depends on your comfort level and what you are asking. Sometimes a face-to-face discussion is better when addressing situations that are serious or you need physical support. In times where communication can be had over the phone or text, contacting others through those means can help.
    2. Unless you are in crisis or danger, ensure you are in a place you feel comfortable and safe to express your emotions. You may need to excuse yourself from class and go to the bathroom, ask your parents to speak on the couch, or call a friend while you are having lunch.
  2. Why
    1. Research has shown that social support systems can have a positive impact on mental health. Support systems can help manage stress, challenges, and crises. Having loving and supportive people in your life can help counter loneliness, isolation, anxiety and depression.
  3. What
    1. Clearly address what you would like from your support system. Do you need space, a distraction (e.g., to watch a movie, go out for dinner, etc), physical support (hugs, kisses, a foot massage, etc),
  4. When
    1. Reach out to others when you need help to express or manage your emotions (when you are feeling alone, helpless, confused, sad, angry, etc) or if you need help to move forward in a difficult situation.
    2. Ensure you are respectful of the boundaries of others if they are unable to support you at that time, take a moment to find your Wise Mind and connect with them later. You can also turn to another support person to help you through an issue.
  5. Who
    1. Reach out to family and friends who you can trust. Connect with people who share your interests (e.g., members of a club, local organization, a class, etc). Reach out to your local library, place of worship, or community centre.
    2. There are also various peer support groups to help take care of your mental health.
    3. Reaching out to your therapist can also be effective to help with stress or challenges.

Sources: https://www.mentalhealthfirstaid.org/2020/08/the-importance-of-having-a-support-